Loose Lips

“Loose Lips Sink Ships”

– that was the slogan during WW II to exhort the allied world to protect any careless speech that might help the enemy in any way.

The spiritual application is also very helpful. Loose lips can sink marriages or any relationship. The Bible tells us that the power of the tongue is able to destroy.


The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. 

It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire,

and is itself set on fire by hell.

James 3:6


Well, that verse surely provides sobering claims about our human nature. We need control! The question is who should control our tongue and how should it be controlled?

Maybe we have never even given thought to such questions. If that is the case, this would be a great time to stop and think about what is governing the words coming out of our mouths.

Here are three controls to think about:


  1. Only speak words that are true.

Honesty is God’s policy. God never lies and neither should we. If God is controlling our tongue, we will always tell the truth. If we do that, it will build trust in our marriages and in our relationships.

Lies are like those torpedoes that sunk ships in the war. Lies blow up the bridges in relationships. If we have lied, we need to repent and ask for forgiveness to restore trust. Set your heart on telling the truth all the time to everyone just like God.


  1. Only speak words that are kind.

Ephesians 4 tells us to “speak the truth in love”. Truth is the content, love is the intent. We can speak truth and be brutal. We can beat people over the head with the Bible. We can win the battle but lose the war. God is love and we are admonished to love like He does over and over again. Love is kind (1 Corinthians 13:4). Love does no harm to one’s neighbor. Love is an absolute. We are to love those who hate us. Speak only loving words to your spouse and everyone else.


  1. Only speak what is necessary.

Sometimes, the best way to prevent a forest fire is not to throw the match! If you are tempted to tell a lie or speak unkind words, the best thing to do is likely nothing. Silence is golden sometimes.

Silence does not throw gasoline on the fire. One of my father’s favorite sayings was “if you can’t say anything good about somebody, don’t say anything at all!” God the Father is saying the same thing. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth” (Ephesians 4:29). Keep a tight rein on your tongue (James 1:26).


Want some great help not only controlling your tongue but also your emails and facebook posts? Read “Before You Hit Send” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, a tremendously helpful book for loose lips!

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