Needy Marriages

How do you feel about being needy? Does that concept make you feel negative? It might equate to weakness and therefore be resisted.

But, the truth is that neediness and weakness are part of who we are as human beings and certainly part of who we are as man and wife in marriage.

Paul concluded in 2 Corinthians 12:10 that “when I am weak, I am strong”.  In verse 9, God says that “my power is made perfect in weakness”.

So if we are trying to avoid seeming weak, we may be heading in the wrong direction.


Needs are God-given therefore inherent in our personalities and our relationships. Sexual needs, for example, are a gift from God and never a cause for husband or wife to feel shame if met according to God’s will (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). The emotional needs of a woman are just as important and just as necessary for satisfaction as the physical needs of the man. Our needs are many and that is simply because we are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image and likeness of God. Marriage itself is the closest human mirror of God. Loving one another in marriage is a picture of the love of the Trinity – beautiful. To think that God would place Himself in need at all is mind boggling. But, Christ was dependent on the Father and the Holy Spirit. Our needs ultimately will be met perfectly when we are married to Christ in heaven. Marriage is central to God’s plan for mankind and needs are like threads woven into the lives of every single on of us. We were made to need one another (1 Corinthians 11:11, Romans 12:5).


Does your body have a need for feeding, cleansing. clothing, exercise, warmth etc. Of course, we are all required to meet our personal needs and then reach out to the needs of others. The Body of Christ is the church and there are needs that you have been called to fulfill with gifts that God has given you as an individual and as a couple. We are called to lay down our lives to meet the needs of others just as Christ did for us.


If you have not read His Needs, Her Needs, please make it a priority. It will help bring understanding of marital needs in a very helpful way!

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