Recently, I submitted a request to the county for a permit. The application was very complicated. I read it over and over and over. After, doing my best to communicate, the paperwork went in and here was the reply: “please read the instructions and submit again”. Not very helpful! I needed to know what I was doing wrong. So I drove over to the county building and asked to see the lady who rejected my application. Within 5 minutes, she pulled out the application and showed me what to do which I did and sent it in again. Hopefully, it will be accepted.
Too often, in our communications in marriage, we are left wondering what is wrong. Am I missing something? Did I somehow misunderstand you? Here’s a tip, just ask. If things are not quite right, don’t let time go by, ask the question, is something wrong, did I miss something?
An unresolved issue will never get settled unless both sides know what is going on. If you have something upsetting you and your partner does not know that you are upset, please do him or her a favor and explain what is going on. We are not mind readers. If you think your partner may be upset with you, ask them if they are. Sometimes I find myself in the doghouse and I have no idea how I got there!
Read John 3:16-21, note how Jesus seeks to bring us out of the dark and into the light. In the same way, we need to shed light on problems when they arise.
When we come into the light as Jesus invites us to do, we find acceptance. How many people have no clue that God wants them to know “What’s Wrong”?
God wants us to know the truth so that we can be closer to Him. The same principle is true in our marriages. Light drives out darkness and we can get things right only after we find out “What’s Wrong”!
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord.
Live as children of light.